I was delighted to find Dexy's wonderful blog and now saddened that she has decided to leave and I wish her well.
I received the following comments which I think contains wonderful advice for anyone in my situation.

youre welcome polly,

be happy

youre riding high and risky so take out a private insurance; dont forget to keep at least one thing totally yours. if your other life should ever fade, you will have a place to retreat to that is untouched and not imprinted with memories.

wishing you lots of chocolate kisses with you know who, (try chocolate buttons, they are small enough to be fun . .)

hugs

dexy x